Sunday, March 13, 2016

THE DECEPTIVE POWER OF INFATUATION

Romantic relationships almost always start with soothing yet tingling sensation called infatuation, also known as limerence or simply stating- crush. It is a state of mind which results from a romantic attraction towards someone that typically includes traits like obsessiveness, a strong desire to develop a relationship with the other person and inevitable fantasies related to that person. An explosion of hormones occurs which triggers the thought, “I want this person to be in my life forever.”

           Your heart starts throbbing as soon as you start thinking about that person. You feel butterflies in your stomach when he/she calls you. You give your utmost attention while reading his/her texts. You correct your text till perfection before you press send. The waiting time for that person to text you back feel like eternity. When you see that person you experience a twitch and there it is- a smile to die for! Your heart nearly skips a beat. You completely get carried away by unreasoning passion. You get addicted to the importance given to you. Everything around you seems like a paradise created by your own fantasies. This euphoria totally consumes you. Romantic interest leads to overestimation of similarities. Of course, older and wiser people tell you that it's only hormones, but it’s next to impossible to believe. It feels like so much more. It is extremely hard to spot even a single trace of a negative quality in the other person. Your mind is constantly lost in the charismatic but fugacious beloved of yours.
          Physical attraction happens to be one of the crucial reasons for a person falling for someone. Beauty attracts you, and you feel like being physically close to that special person. It becomes harder to get away from this feeling, as you are gripped by the strong forces of attraction. Although choice varies from person to person. After all beauty lies in the eye of the beholder. The eagerness to find someone who treats you special, and actually getting that attention, can be a serious cause for infatuation. Other major causes include ‘Loneliness’ which pulls you into this short lived passion.
          So to save oneself from a treacherous heartache, one should understand the difference between infatuation and love before taking a major step forward. 'Infatuation' is the state of being completely lost in the emotion of unreasoning desire while 'love' is an intense feeling of deep affection. Love imbibes a sense of commitment, faithfulness and contentment. Infatuation eventually fades away within a few months whereas true love deepens with the passage of time. Infatuation when over, results in harsh consequences or a heartbreak whereas love leaves an imprint of stability in one’s life.
          To conclude, I would like to say that it is completely normal for every person to experience infatuation, but one should remember that it is a deceptive bait and should never be mistaken for genuine love.
         



39 comments:

A Busy Bees Life said...

I agree with your points in this post. I think a lot of the time people cannot tell the difference and end up with feelings hurt and broken hearts. Thanks for sharing :-)

Veethee Dixit said...

Thnx.. m glad u lykd my post!!

Luiza Enaru said...

Great article! I'm always interested in "love and attraction chemistry"! No rules, no borders, a lot of feelings!

Luiza Enaru said...
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Veethee Dixit said...

Thnx Luiza!

Cos said...

I'm here on behalf of Mei from Scribbles from a Country Girl, who said she can't post the comment. She said: "Nice post! Sadly, it is true that way too many people make this terrible mistake of mixing up infatuation and love..."

Ms. Chocolate Brown Hair said...

Crushes are not the same of love! Thanks for sharing

Veethee Dixit said...

Thnx for reading pals!!

Monika said...

I thought it was a great article. Teenagers should read this , though it is good for everyone.

Veethee Dixit said...

thanx Monika! teenagers nowadays really need some kind of an eye opener..

wijaya said...

So great articel, this article could says, another side of love

Unknown said...

Hi Veethee,

I agree with you, I always like to read a post about this, keep doing more! Thanks for your time sharing this to us :)

Regards,
Nicolas.

Luiza Enaru said...

Hello! Please, don't forget to comment back! Thank you!

Veethee Dixit said...

thanx Nicolas.. keep reading..!!

Veethee Dixit said...

thanx Nicolas.. keep reading..!!

chhavi agarwal said...

I can relate to everything in this post. Been there, experienced it. Haha. But, it's very difficult to know the difference because eventually excitement and butterflies are out of both love and crush. It pretty much works on the same trajectory. Sometimes crushes turn in love and that's my story. Anyway, great post.

Zwitsy Y said...

I have witnessed a lot of infatuation kind of relationships and to tell you honestly, all of those relationships have ended up. I definitely agree on you on the last paragraph - "... it is completely normal for every person to experience infatuation, but one should remember that it is a deceptive bait and should never be mistaken for genuine love."

Mia Foo said...

indeed infatuation and love are totally different but some people are addicted the the feelings of infatuation itself. to me, love is an action while infatuation is a feeling. feeling dies with time, but a choice of action is meant to be followed through. for this case, promises are meant to be kept. this is genuine love.

Shannon Bryson said...

A very interesting post and one a lot of people should read! It's funny how infatuation is essential to start a relationship but how it can mislead you as well!

The Big Chiang Theory said...

I agree with you 100%, it can be hard for some people to tell between whats true love or if it's just infatuation. Beautifully written!

Carola Conmose said...

Nice post. I agree with you. Though at the moment itself it's ofcourse quite hard to recogize which one you're dealing with :). But it's a good thing to be more aware and question it. You'll realize sooner.

Sanskriti Gupta said...

I guess the problem lies in the fact that no one is eager to accept that they can be infatuated. not everything can be controlled. And sometimes it is better to go with the flow and cherish the moment you get!

Miss Piggy said...

The hormones as far as i know would be dopamine. Blame it all to that guy hahhaha! Been there done that feelings and i must admit it is hard to sustain sometimes specially if the love is fading already.

The Graceful Mist said...

Infatuation is quite shallow while love goes deeper. Often, infatuation starts first before true feelings of love develop. I agree that one shouldn`t jump to a relationship without understanding the difference between infatuation and love.

Veethee Dixit said...

thnx Chhavi😊

Becca said...

Very interesting! I think the line between infatuation and love gets blurred so easily - all those feelings end up confusing you.

Becca xx | The Après Gal

Tania Potter said...

You have nailed the description of that crazy, madly in love feeling but you are right, three is so much more to love than that. Although, that has got to the 'most fun you can have' stage! Great post, brought a smile to my face with happy memories.

Jam and Tea Blog said...

I agree, love means commitment! This is a well thought out article. Thanks!

Carrie Rundhaug said...

This is a great article... I really enjoyed how you defined both infatuation and love. It was very clear.

Shelley Zurek -- Still Blonde after all these YEARS said...

Exactly why you should never move in with, jump in bed with, or commit to marriage to early. Make sure you know which is which. BTW I still am infactuated and in love with my husband!

Nina said...

I've often heard it say that love is a choice because at one point the infatuation wears off and then you are left with that person.

Nina
aworldofdresses.com

Elizabeth O. said...

There's a lot of people who confuse infatuation and love but you'll figure it out as time passes by. It's good to know the different early on though, so that less people will get hurt.

Mary Welby said...

Infatuation should be a deadly sin. It can really throw you for a loop.

Sana's Ramblings said...

You described it beautifully ^_^ infatuation is most dangerous of em all ...

Garf said...

I need to refresh my memories of that feeling back when I was still a teenager that I went gaga with someone in my school. I find it funny now thinking about those days.

Jennifer L | Modern Chic said...

Great post! I would love to forward this to several of my friends who seem to get caught up in getting one relationship after another.

maries beauties said...

Great post hun. Some really great tips here to share with my friends, thank you. X

Laura Hartley said...

People confuse the two soo often, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Never heard of the word ‘limerence’ before though so I learnt something new today!

Dhini said...

Nice artikel. Thank for sharing

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